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Why does my baby wake up the moment I put them down?

The short version

Because the first stretch of sleep is the lightest. Your baby isn't objecting to the crib. They're surfacing from a light phase at the exact moment everything around them changes.

Written by the Napper content team3 sources2 min read

Why it happens

Sleep starts light

Young babies enter sleep through a light phase before dropping into deeper sleep. The first several minutes after they drift off are the easiest to interrupt.

The startle reflex fires

The sensation of losing support triggers the Moro reflex. The arms fly out, and that movement is often enough to wake them.

Everything changes at once

Warm chest to cool mattress, motion to stillness, your heartbeat to a quiet room. That's a lot of new information arriving in one second.

Worth trying

What tends to help

Waiting a little longer before the transfer, until the arms go heavy and loose.
Lowering your baby bottom first, so their head stays supported the longest.
Keeping a hand resting on them for a moment after they're down.
Letting some naps be contact naps. At this stage that isn't a habit you'll have to undo.

When to check with someone

Wherever your baby sleeps, the safest setup is the same: on their back, on a firm flat surface, clear of soft bedding. If you're holding your baby and think you might drift off, move to a bed rather than a sofa or armchair, which carries a much higher risk of falling asleep together unsafely.

Doulores

This one frustrates almost everyone, because it feels like your baby has an opinion about the crib. Usually they just have a nervous system that noticed the change.

If the transfer keeps failing tonight, I'd stop attempting it and hold them. Nothing is being reinforced that you'll have to undo later.

Go deeper

If you want the full picture

The Misty JungleThe full guide to sleep in the first two months Sleep cycles, explainedWhy babies surface between phases of sleep

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